The Misconception of “The Worst Case Scenario”

Written by Ms. AKA / Renae from @sacredcarnelian

What if I told you that “the worst possible” outcome is based in perspective?  In my humbled opinion everything is truly rooted in the way we perceive things—that’s why everyone’s truth is unique to their own. However, there is always a twist, some privileges and outliers have the ability to alter and manipulate our perspective. As children we were taught that saying “No” wasn’t an acceptable response and we’d soon be met with the consequences that would follow— but, why didn’t we question that? In fact we did question it, as the follow up question (after being met with consequences) was “why” and I’d imagine many of us can concur that the dreaded ‘why’ made matters worse. 

This type of reprimanding children’s ability to fully express their dissatisfaction as well as questioning the need of a consequence creates a spiral of confusion in regards to what is considered “appropriate” expressiveness." Without our parents, family members, and/or childhood friends, being aware of their actions; when we were met with consequences for our curiosity and expressiveness this undeniably made things such as: rejection, change, and the perception of the “worst case scenario” or saying “No” feel heavy, disrespectful, and triggering. 

So, where does the misconception of “the worst case scenario” come into fruition? When your ability to express your dissatisfaction has been repressed for the sake of someone else, you’ve been robbed of the opportunity to fall on your own to then pick yourself back up. For example, have you ever known someone to say “I’m going through this so you don’t have to” or “Do as I say, and not as I do” it’s kind of like that—not saying the intention is always bad but there is still room for it to be questioned. However, when you begin to become inquisitive by questioning the authenticity or the intent behind the motive and said person becomes defensive or deflects that’s where the issue starts to arise. Even in our youth we are still sovereign beings and should have freedom of expression regardless if someone else finds our voice to be invalid. When your ability to express your dissatisfaction is suppressed it can create a cycle of fearing the unknown, connecting with others can feel unsettling, or worst—life challenges feel like a punishment instead of an opportunity for growth. 

The worst case scenario while undesirable isn’t impossible to maneuver—but, be gentle with unpacking the root of its unsettling nature. In my last blog post, I discussed how this present season of life is titled “Forgiveness.” This level of forgiveness is the process of freeing others of their attachments to my essence so that they can in return be free and seek knowledge from their own sovereignty. In that same regard, I hope that you will establish an awareness as to whom has an impact on the relationship you have with life's adversities and in return reclaim your power.